Reading with my first born
I was like many other women out there – youthful, recently married, and ready to start my family. When my first born arrived, I wanted nothing more than for him, and his future siblings, to succeed in life. I felt obligated to read because I knew that someone needed to support and help them. As as I read with him each night, there was something bothering me, something that concerned me more and more as time passed by. I couldn’t help but worry that my husband was not as involved with reading as he should have been.
Feelings and Questions
I wanted so much for my husband to be involved with reading and educating of our children. My feelings kept building up inside of me and bothering more and more each day. I had questions for my husband, many questions. Was it because he didn’t like to read himself? Did his parents not read to him as a child? Did he just not want to take the time to read with them?
I finally reached a point where I knew, for the sake of our children, that I needed to confront him about the issue. I decided to just ask the question straight out. To somewhat of a surprise, he was very willing to talk about his reasoning and issues. He described that as a child, he was not a good reader and always struggled with school. He felt that if he read our children he would hurt their progress more than help. He showed his big heart and love – that he truly wanted what was best for his children. If we would have had this discussion earlier, I think things would have been a lot different for our kids. Sure, time has gone bye, but now he reads with our children all the time. They don’t read novels or things that I would suggest, mostly woodworking magazines, but at least they are engaged in reading together. But you know, who am I to judge? It is still reading.
As women we always want what is best for our children and must strive to do what it takes to help them succeed. There is often a good reason that a child’s father is not engaged with reading. My tapping into my husband’s feelings, I helped him open up and understand his valuable role. Quite often guys just need to be guided and nudged. He found his reading niche with our children and has helped make an invaluable impact on them!
What are your feelings?
What similar encounters have you experienced?
What advice would you give to single mom’s out there?