Location: Setif, Algeria
Positions: Classroom Teacher Administrator, English Teacher
Help without over functioning. Help only if your child asks for it. Do not do problems or assignments for your child.
When your child says, “I can’t do it,” say, “Act as if you can.” Tell your child to pretend that he or she knows what to do and to see what happens. Then leave the immediate area, and let your child see if he or she can handle it from there. If your child keeps telling you he or she doesn’t know how and you decide to offer help, concentrate on asking rather than on telling.
“What do you get?”
“What parts do you understand?”
“Can you give me an example?”
“What do you think the answer is?”
“How could you find out?”
If you want a behavior, you have to teach a behavior. Disorganization is a problem for many school-age children. If you want your child to be organized, you have to invest the time to help your child learn an organizational system. Your job is to teach the system. Your child’s job is to use it. Yes, check occasionally to see if the system is being used, especially at first. Provide direction and correction where necessary.
If your child needs help with time management, teach him or her time management skills. Help your child learn what it means to prioritize according to the importance and due date of each task. Teach your child to create an agenda each time he or she sits down to study. Help your child experience the value of getting the most important things done first.
Replace monetary and external rewards with encouraging verbal responses. End the practice of paying for grades or rewarding with a special trip for ice cream. This style of bribery has only short-term gains and does little to encourage children to develop a lifelong love of learning.
Instead, make positive verbal comments that concentrate on describing the behavior you wish to encourage. For example:
“You followed the directions exactly and finished in 15 minutes.”
“I notice you stayed up late last night working on your term paper. It probably wasn’t easy saving that much for the end, but your efforts got it done.”
“All your letters are right between the lines. I’ll bet your teacher won’t have any trouble reading this.”
“I see you got the study table all organized and ready to go early. Looks to me like initiative and responsibility hooked together.”
Use study time to get some of your own responsibilities handled. Do the dishes, fold laundry, or write thank you notes. Keep the TV off! If you engage in fun or noisy activities during that time, your child will naturally be distracted. Study time is a family commitment. If you won’t commit to it, don’t expect your child to do so.
Special Note: Tonight when your child is studying, begin on your homework assignment, which follows. Reread this article. Decide which parts of it you want to implement. Determine when you will begin. Put it in writing. Then congratulate yourself for getting your homework done.
Position: Classroom Teacher
I like the tip 8 , it is usually done at most homes. I myself experienced it before. When i have to study for exams or doing my homework, my parents and siblings are in front of the TV and watching our favorite shows. While i am the one who got to study for exams! From the start, i already lost my concentration… most especially when i already heard them laughing and enjoying in the other room. I feel like, I wish i am also there in the next room and join the fun.
I think it is wonderful if the whole family will also have the same thing to do.
When i have a family of my own someday, I would like also to implement this “Family commitment” for study time as well. It’s nice.